How we feel about adoption

We truly feel that adoption is a gift. We feel so humbled and so blessed that our family was created through adoption.

When we made the decision to adopt, I (Lila) found a quote that helped me see my infertility in a new light.

“When you struggle with infertility, it’s hard to find the place within yourself that believes reproduction is not just biological, biological reproduction is not the only way to truly create. You can make a mark on the world in so many ways. You can affect other humans for good, fix the ailing planet, and affect positive change. So many children need arms to hold them. And isn’t that reproduction, too? Reproducing the good in yourself, in the world, improving and creating?”
(Author unknown)

I began to wonder if my answer to Motherhood could be found in adoption.

My sister used to work in a day care center. She told me about a particular little girl in her class. The girl was having trouble learning to tie her shoes. She struggled with it everyday. Then one day the little girl came to day care in a pair of Velcro shoes. My sister looked at the new shoes and asked, “Does this mean you’ve given up trying to learn how to tie your shoes?” The little girl innocently replied, “No, it just means I’m wearing a different pair of shoes.”

That’s how we feel about adoption. It took us a while to commit to an adoption plan for various reasons. One reason was fear that people would think adoption was our number two choice. Second best so to speak. It’s not second best or a last resort. It’s simply an option we hadn’t given much thought to. It’s simply wearing a different pair of shoes as we walked the road to parenthood.

Where the future once looked scary and lonely when it was labeled "infertile", adoption brought joy and hope and peace.

Adoption is the greatest gift in our life.